Modeling the kind of contentment that we all want for our children isn’t easy as adults. The best parenting is done by example after all. Later I realized I should be wishing the same for myself, for my husband, and for all moms and dads. I wished her a big dream for herself and the motivation to pursue it to the hilt. I wished her great friends and loving family for all her days. “I wished for our daughter’s continued happiness and health as she grows older and life gains complexity. In an article about Z’s first birthday last year, I reflected in print: So September affords me two great opportunities for introspection-my birthday and hers. Zora (the cutie pictured above) was “due” on my birthday two years ago, but in an early exertion of her independent spirit she decided to hold out for her own special moment-eleven days later.
Fortunately, motherhood builds just that kind of muscle with its nonstop demands and the ultimate motivation-a little being who’s watching your every move. Now I have to work at the dream and at finding time, space and energy to pursue it. Getting from point A to point B with a two-year-old in tow requires a bit more strength and flexibility than when I was flying solo. My big dreams remain, but as a mother, I’ve got to be considerably more creative in their pursuit. I just always want to be the best that I can.” I’m not afraid of working hard at anything, whatever it is. Gisele remarked in British Vogue : “I tell my five sisters, who don’t work at it very hard at all, whatever you put in, you get out. That once you figure out your niche - something you’ve got some talent for and interest in-you’ve got to imagine yourself performing at your peak and find the motivation to pursue the vision relentlessly. I suspect that the ladies above grasped early on something that I was slower to recognize. Problem was: I didn’t always work like one.
But I always thought I would be a nationally recognized author. I never aspired to be a pop icon, supermodel, reality star or elite tennis player. Birthdays give us a perfect occasion to ponder the gap between where we are and where we’ve always longed to be. I could look at these peers and see a lot standing between their accomplishments and mine. They’ve built multimillion-dollar personal brands with incredible work ethic and uncommon drive. All four are powerhouse women at the top of their games in highly public fields. Turns out I share it with Christina Aguilera, Gisele Bundchen, Kim Kardashian and Venus Williams. Out of 100, my applications with a male name got 10 responses to interview Out of 100, my applications with a female name got 87 responses to interview The female resume got 870% more responses.I celebrated a birthday in September and, in true internet-age fashion, did a Google search on women born in my birth year, 1980. Sometimes the male went first, sometimes the female went first. Made a fake resume, and responded to craigslist ads with both male and female names. So then I thought "what about someone looking for working class jobs?" So I decided to focus on restaurants- servers, hosting, etc. Out of 100, my applications with a female name got 45 responses to interview The female resume was 650% more likely to get a callback. Out of 100, my applications with a male name got 7 responses for interview. I'd send it out with my real name, then a few days later (or few days before) with a female name.
So I took my CV and changed the name to a female name. It's MUCH better being a woman So I did an experiment, I work in CS and decided to test what the gender bias is. 29.6K 1.3K sent 100 applications as a man and a woman.
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